Listen kiddo, I know you’ve been through some shit. I can’t change that, and neither can you. But if you fall down in some shit, are you going to roll around in it, rub it all over your clothes, and face and go ‘waaa, poor me, why did I fall in this shit, my life sucks’ or are you going to get your ass up, go home, clean up, and laugh about it later with your friends?